I have another birthday, and another bunch of unsolicited advice. 我又过了一个生日，又有一些不请自来的建议。
That thing that made you weird as a kid could make you great as an adult — if you don’t lose it. 幼时怪异的特质在成年人身上会变得了不起，如果还没被磨灭掉的话。
If you have any doubt at all about being able to carry a load in one trip, do yourself a huge favor and make two trips. 如果你对于完成一次旅程中的所有安排有任何迟疑，请帮自己分成两段旅程。
What you get by achieving your goals is not as important as what you become by achieving your goals. At your funeral people will not recall what you did; they will only remember how you made them feel. 达成目标后自身的变化比得到的东西更重要。葬礼上的人们不会回顾你做过的事，只会记得你的为人。
Recipe for success: under-promise and over-deliver. 成功秘方：承诺时有所保留，交付时超出预期。
It’s not an apology if it comes with an excuse. It is not a compliment if it comes with a request. 真诚的道歉不会强调借口。单纯的赞美不会附带要求。
Jesus, Superman, and Mother Teresa never made art. Only imperfect beings can make art because art begins in what is broken. 耶稣、超人、特蕾莎修女都不是艺术家。不完美的人才会创作艺术，因为艺术始于残缺。
If someone is trying to convince you it’s not a pyramid scheme, it’s a pyramid scheme. 如果有人试图劝你说这不是传销，它就是传销。
Learn how to tie a bowline knot. Practice in the dark. With one hand. For the rest of your life you’ll use this knot more times than you would ever believe. 学会怎么打称人结。闭眼练习，单手尝试。余生中你用到此结的机会大大超出你的想象。
If something fails where you thought it would fail, that is not a failure. 预期到的失败不算失败。
Be governed not by the tyranny of the urgent but by the elevation of the important. 分清轻重，无视缓急。
Leave a gate behind you the way you first found it. 通过之后把门留在原来的状态。
The greatest rewards come from working on something that nobody has a name for. If you possibly can, work where there are no words for what you do. 最大的成就来自于未曾命名的领域。可能的话，选择无人问津的工作。
A balcony or porch needs to be at least 6 feet (2m) deep or it won’t be used. 阳台或门廊如果不到两米宽，那就没法用。
Don’t create things to make money; make money so you can create things. The reward for good work is more work. 别为了挣钱去创作，挣钱是为了能创作。活儿干得好会带来更多的活儿。
In all things — except love — start with the exit strategy. Prepare for the ending. Almost anything is easier to get into than out of. 除了爱情之外，所有的事开始时都想好退出策略。做好结束的准备。几乎所有事都是易入难出。
Train employees well enough they could get another job, but treat them well enough so they never want to. 员工培训做得足够好他们会跳槽，但是员工待遇足够好他们就不想了。
Don’t aim to have others like you; aim to have them respect you. 不要以让别人喜欢你为目的，让他们尊重你。
The foundation of maturity: Just because it’s not your fault doesn’t mean it’s not your responsibility. 成熟的基础：不是你的错误并不意味着不是你的责任。
A multitude of bad ideas is necessary for one good idea. 好主意来自很多糟点子。
Being wise means having more questions than answers. 保持睿智意味着发问多过回答。
Compliment people behind their back. It’ll come back to you. 在背后赞美他人，赞美会回到自己身上。
Most overnight successes — in fact any significant successes — take at least 5 years. Budget your life accordingly. 大多看似突然的成功，实际上所有重要成就，都需要至少五年。安排好自己的人生。
You are only as young as the last time you changed your mind. 当你不再转变观点，你就不再成长。
Assume anyone asking for your account information for any reason is guilty of scamming you, unless proven innocent. The way to prove innocence is to call them back, or login to your account using numbers or a website that you provide, not them. Don’t release any identifying information while they are contacting you via phone, message or email. You must control the channel. 除非被证实的情况，任何人以任何理由要求你提供账户信息都是欺诈行为。证实的方法是主动回拨官方号码或者登录官方网站，不要使用对方提供的信息。万勿通过电话、短信或邮件泄露任何个人认证信息。必须控制好认证渠道。
Sustained outrage makes you stupid. 持续发怒会变蠢。
Be strict with yourself and forgiving of others. The reverse is hell for everyone. 严于律己，宽以待人。反之即地狱。
Your best response to an insult is “You’re probably right.” Often they are. 回应冒犯的最好方式是“您可能是对的。”因为通常确实如此。
The worst evils in history have always been committed by those who truly believed they were combating evil. Beware of combating evil. 历史上最穷凶极恶的人都深信自己在惩奸除恶。警惕惩奸除恶的名号。
If you can avoid seeking approval of others, your power is limitless. 当你不再寻求他人认可，你将无限强大。
When a child asks an endless string of “why?” questions, the smartest reply is, “I don’t know, what do you think?” 面对孩子无休止的十万个为什么，最明智的回复是：“我不知道，你认为呢？”
To be wealthy, accumulate all those things that money can’t buy. 要想致富，去积累那些用钱无法买到的东西。
Be the change you wish to see. 做出那些你希望看到的改变。
When brainstorming, improvising, jamming with others, you’ll go much further and deeper if you build upon each contribution with a playful “yes — and” example instead of a deflating “no — but” reply. 在集思广益，即兴创作，与人交往时，如果你有意使用“是的，而且”引出例证，来代替通过“不对，但是”当场反驳，那么您获得更深远的成果。
Work to become, not to acquire. 工作的目的是成就自己，而非获取回报。
Don’t loan money to a friend unless you are ready to make it a gift. 永远不要借钱给朋友，除非你准备捐赠。
On the way to a grand goal, celebrate the smallest victories as if each one were the final goal. No matter where it ends you are victorious. 在迈向宏伟目标的路上，把每次微小的胜利当作最后的胜利来庆祝。不论最终走到哪里，都是胜利者。
Calm is contagious. 淡定有感染他人的力量。
Even a foolish person can still be right about most things. Most conventional wisdom is true. 即使愚人也能做好多数事情。传统认知大多是对的。
Always cut away from yourself. 时常抽离自我。
Show me your calendar and I will tell you your priorities. Tell me who your friends are, and I’ll tell you where you’re going. 从你的日程表可以看出你做事的优先级，从你交往的朋友能判断你将去到哪里。
When hitchhiking, look like the person you want to pick you up. 搭顺风车时，让自己看起来像你愿意接上的人一样。
Contemplating the weaknesses of others is easy; contemplating the weaknesses in yourself is hard, but it pays a much higher reward. 发现他人的缺点容易，思考自己的缺点很难，但会获得更好的回报。
Worth repeating: measure twice, cut once. 值得重复：反复确认，一次成功。
Your passion in life should fit you exactly; but your purpose in life should exceed you. Work for something much larger than yourself. 生活热情应当适合自己，但人生目标应该超越自己。为比个人更宏大的事业努力。
If you can’t tell what you desperately need, it’s probably sleep. 如果说不出自己迫切需要什么，那就是睡眠。
When playing Monopoly, spend all you have to buy, barter, or trade for the Orange properties. Don’t bother with Utilities. 玩大富翁的时候，倾注所有去购置、换取和交易橙色地产，别操心公共事业。
If you borrow something, try to return it in better shape than you received it. Clean it, sharpen it, fill it up. 归还借用物品时，让它比借来的时候状态更好。清洁它，磨利它，填满它。
Even in the tropics it gets colder at night than you think. Pack warmly. 即使在热带地区，夜晚也比你预期更冷。带上暖和衣服。
To quiet a crowd or a drunk, just whisper. 要让人群或醉汉安静下来，只需轻声耳语。
Writing down one thing you are grateful for each day is the cheapest possible therapy ever. 每天记录一件感恩的事，是最廉价的疗愈方法。
When someone tells you something is wrong, they’re usually right. When someone tells you how to fix it, they’re usually wrong. 当有人指出错误时，他通常是对的。当有人试图纠正你时，他通常是错的。
If you think you saw a mouse, you did. And, if there is one, there are more. 如果你猜你见到了一只老鼠，那就确实有。而且如果一旦出现一只，就会有更多。
Money is overrated. Truly new things rarely need an abundance of money. If that was so, billionaires would have a monopoly on inventing new things, and they don’t. Instead almost all breakthroughs are made by those who lack money, because they are forced to rely on their passion, persistence and ingenuity to figure out new ways. Being poor is an advantage in innovation. 财富的重要性一直被高估。真正的新事物几乎不会花费大量金钱。否则的话，亿万富翁会垄断新事物的发明，实际上并没有。与之相反的是，突破往往来自于财富有限的人，他们被迫依赖热情、坚韧和智慧去开拓新路。贫乏是创新的优势。
Ignore what others may be thinking of you, because they aren’t. 别在意别人可能怎么看你，因为他们根本没这么想。
Avoid hitting the snooze button. That’s just training you to oversleep. 不要去碰贪睡按钮，那样只会培养你睡过头。
Always say less than necessary. 言多必失。
You are given the gift of life in order to discover what your gift in life is. You will complete your mission when you figure out what your mission is. This is not a paradox. This is the way. 你被赋予的天赋是为了让你找到你的天赋。你只有意识到自己的使命时才会完成使命。这不是悖论，这是必由之路。
Don’t treat people as bad as they are. Treat them as good as you are. 不要冤冤相报，要以德报怨。
It is much easier to change how you think by changing your behavior, than it is to change your behavior by changing how you think. Act out the change you seek. 通过行为改变认知比通过认知改变行为要容易得多。用行动寻求改变。
You can eat any dessert you want if you take only 3 bites. 如果你试图只吃三口，你就有可能吃掉任何甜点。
Each time you reach out to people, bring them a blessing; then they’ll be happy to see you when you bring them a problem. 总给别人带去祝福，等你带去问题的时候他们也会乐于接受。
Bad things can happen fast, but almost all good things happen slowly. 坏事易见，好事多磨。
Don’t worry how or where you begin. As long as you keep moving, your success will be far from where you start. 别担心何处开始。坚持前行，成就会远远超过起点。
When you confront a stuck bolt or screw: righty tighty, lefty loosey. 面对卡住的螺栓或螺丝时：向右紧，向左松。
If you meet a jerk, overlook them. If you meet jerks everywhere everyday, look deeper into yourself. 偶尔遇到混蛋，无视他们。总是遇到混蛋，检视自己。
Dance with your hips. 跳舞要扭屁股。
We are not bodies that temporarily have souls. We are souls that temporarily have bodies. 我们不是灵魂暂存的躯体，我们是暂驻躯壳的灵魂。
You can reduce the annoyance of someone’s stupid belief by increasing your understanding of why they believe it. 通过增加理解他人固执的原因，可以减轻因为他们愚蠢导致的愤怒。
If your goal does not have a schedule, it is a dream. 当目标不设期限，即是梦想。
All the greatest gains in life — in wealth, relationships, or knowledge —come from the magic of compounding interest — amplifying small steady gains. All you need for abundance is to keep adding 1% more than you subtract on a regular basis. 生活中所有大的收获，无论财富、关系或是知识，都来自复利的魔力，众多微小稳定收益的放大。为了保持富足，你所要做的仅仅是保持定投比支出多 1%。
The greatest breakthroughs are missed because they look like hard work. 伟大的突破都隐藏在幸苦劳作之中。
People can’t remember more than 3 points from a speech. 人们记不住一场讲话中三个以上的观点。
I have never met a person I admired who did not read more books than I did. 我钦佩的人里没有比我读书少的。
The greatest teacher is called “doing”. 实践是最伟大的老师。
Finite games are played to win or lose. Infinite games are played to keep the game going. Seek out infinite games because they yield infinite rewards. 有限游戏为了输赢。无限游戏为了让游戏继续。选择寻求无限游戏，才会带来无限奖赏。
Everything is hard before it is easy. The day before something is a breakthrough, it’s a stupid idea. 任何事都是先难后易。事情在取得突破之前都是蠢主意。
A problem that can be solved with money is not really a problem. 能用钱解决的问题都不成为真正的问题。
When you are stuck, sleep on it. Let your subconscious work for you. 当你陷入卡顿，就去睡觉。让潜意识继续工作。
Your work will be endless, but your time is finite. You cannot limit the work so you must limit your time. Hours are the only thing you can manage. 工作永远做不完，但时间是有限的。你不能限制工作，所以必须限制时间。时间是唯一可以掌控的东西。
To succeed, get other people to pay you; to become wealthy, help other people to succeed. 要成功，想法让他人付钱；要致富，帮助他人成功。
Children totally accept — and crave — family rules. “In our family we have a rule for X” is the only excuse a parent needs for setting a family policy. In fact, “I have a rule for X” is the only excuse you need for your own personal policies. 孩子们完全乐于接受甚至渴望家庭规则。“我们家有个原则”是父母制定家庭策略的唯一借口。“我有个原则”是你设定自我保护策略的唯一借口。
All guns are loaded. 把所有的枪当作上膛的枪。
Many backward steps are made by standing still. 逆水行舟，不进则退。
This is the best time ever to make something. None of the greatest, coolest creations 20 years from now have been invented yet. You are not late. 现在是最好的创作时机。从今往后二十年间所有最伟大和最酷的创意都还没被发明出来。你还没晚。
No rain, no rainbow. 不经历风雨，怎么见彩虹。
Every person you meet knows an amazing lot about something you know virtually nothing about. Your job is to discover what it is, and it won’t be obvious. 你遇到的每一个人，都对一个你几乎一无所知的领域了解得非常深入。你需要做的是找出来，这通常并不明显。
You don’t marry a person, you marry a family. 你娶（嫁）的不是一个人，而是一整个家庭。
Always give credit, take blame. 言而有信，接受指责。
Be frugal in all things, except in your passions splurge. 在所有事上保持节俭，除了挥洒热情。
When making something, always get a few extras — extra material, extra parts, extra space, extra finishes. The extras serve as backups for mistakes, reduce stress, and fill your inventory for the future. They are the cheapest insurance. 做东西时，务必留有余量——额外材料、额外部件、额外空间、额外饰面。这些额外供给可以作为犯错的备份，减轻负担，还为库存作准备。这些是最便宜的保险。
Something does not need to be perfect to be wonderful. Especially weddings. 有些事大可不必完美无瑕才算作精彩。尤其是婚礼。
Don’t let your email inbox become your to-do list. 别把邮件收件箱当成待办清单来用。
The best way to untangle a knotty tangle is not to “untie” the knots, but to keep pulling the loops apart wider and wider. Just make the mess as big, loose and open as possible. As you open up the knots they will unravel themselves. Works on cords, strings, hoses, yarns, or electronic cables. 解开缠成一团的结的最好方法不是把结都“解开”，而是把绳圈拉得越来越宽。尽可能地让绳团变大，变松、变开即可。当你解开疙瘩时，它们会自行松脱。对软线，细绳，软管，纱线或电缆都有效。
Be a good ancestor. Do something a future generation will thank you for. A simple thing is to plant a tree. 当好祖先。做后代会感激你的事。比如植一棵树。
To combat an adversary, become their friend. 为了对付对手，先成为他们的朋友。
Take one simple thing — almost anything — but take it extremely seriously, as if it was the only thing in the world, or maybe the entire world is in it — and by taking it seriously you’ll light up the sky. 挑一件简单的事，可以是任何事，但要极其认真地对待，就好像这是世界上唯一的一件事，也好像整个世界都在这件事里，认真对待，你可以点亮天空。
History teaches us that in 100 years from now some of the assumptions you believed will turn out to be wrong. A good question to ask yourself today is “What might I be wrong about?” 历史教会我们，从现在开始的一百年里，很多我们深信的假设都会被证明是错误的。每天自我反省的一个好问题是：“那些地方我可能错了？”
Be nice to your children because they are going to choose your nursing home. 好好对待孩子，因为将会是他们选择你的养老院。
Advice like these are not laws. They are like hats. If one doesn’t fit, try another. 以上建议并不是律条，更像一些帽子。如果戴着不合适，那就换一顶。
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